“My daughter Lisa was murdered on June 7, 1986, when she was twenty-eight years old. Her next-door neighbor had been stalking her. One night when he was high on cocaine, he broke into her apartment, tied her up with her pantyhose, and raped her several times. Afterward, he strangled her and drowned her in her bathtub. I’ve always wondered whether she was already dead when he held her head under the water. When I speak to offenders, I always say, ‘I don’t want you to feel sorry for me. When I speak, I want you to think about your victims and what you have put them through.’ I also tell them that if they don’t forgive, they can’t heal. Just as we forgave Lisa’s killer, they need to forgive themselves. It’s the only way they can move forward.”